We all know the feeling of spending time with someone who makes us feel happy, optimistic and energised. As you read these words, I’m sure the faces of the people who make you feel exactly this way are flashing into your mind.
Equally and inevitably there are people in our lives that make us feel bored, irritated, uninspired and sometimes even depressed.
It would be naïve of me to suggest that anyone can go through their life in a total cocoon of laughter, positivity and in the constant presence of inspiring people.
Life is just not like that. We must all spend time with people who challenge us.
It is fair to say that some of the greatest and most memorable times in our lives often feel so wonderful because of the challenges we endured or were confronted by and what we overcame to find and enjoy those sunshine moments.
As I consider the reality of not always being around positive people, I have learned there is definitely some value in developing our personalities to be more tolerant of people who have acute development needs, life challenges and who need help and inspiration from us. Life is as much about giving as it is taking
This is a big part of the business philosophy that I teach – be prepared to help and support those who want to improve and take some satisfaction from seeing them grow.
As I consider and reflect on my own path and the ability to design the life that I craved, I realise just how important the discipline of “choosing precisely who to spend time with” has been on my life journey and my progress.
Firstly, I have deliberately sought to spend the majority of time with people who I know are just as interested in me as I am in them.
Authentic people cannot act their way through not really caring about you. If they don’t have your best interests in mind, they will soon reveal their true motivations.
There is no better feeling than knowing a friend or a colleague has your genuine, best interests in mind. But sometimes we need to spend time with people who will challenge us – people who can deal with the sometimes awkward and give us constructive and sensitive feedback.
Equally, over the years, I have sought to spend time with people who I know possess much better business skills than me in certain areas. I can learn from these people and I always seek to reciprocate and give value back to them from my own experiences.
As I write this blog, I reflect back on last week. I was literally exhilarated to spend the weekend with some of my colleagues and friends at a team retreat. The weekend was full of laughter, sharing, learning, challenging each other and planning for a better future.
Weekends like this play a priceless part in our personal and team development. As I remember the fun of last weekend, the words of two inspiring people, Deepak Chopra and the late Helen Keller, enter my mind.
The great author Deepak Chopra said;
“You can’t make positive choices for the rest of your life without an environment that makes those choices easy, natural, and enjoyable.”
The inspirational Helen Keller said;
“Keep your face to the sunshine and you cannot see a shadow”
If you want to improve your life circumstances, your knowledge and your skills, my advice is to be much more conscious and selective about who you choose to spend your time with.
- Grab your journal now and take some time to reflect on the people who make you feel good. Maybe there are people who just lift your spirits and give you the light hearted laughter moments that energise the soul.
- Think about the people you always learn from.
- Consider the people who show immense gratitude when you offer them some of your time, support and wisdom. Remember how satisfying it feels to help someone who is less fortunate than you.
Your time is limited and precious. Make sure that your interaction with other people is planned to give you growth, satisfaction and stimulation. I will close this week’s blog with one of the most memorable poems I have ever read about personal development. Have a great weekend.
There once was an oyster
Whose story I tell,
Who found that some sand
Had got into her shell.
It was only a grain,
But it gave her great pain.
For oysters have feelings
Although they’re so plain.
Now, did she berate
The harsh working of fate
That had brought her
To such a deplorable state?
Did she curse at the government,
Cry for election,
And claim that the sea should
Have given her protection?
No – she sad to himself
As she lay on a shell,
Since I cannot remove it,
I shall try to improve it.
Now the years have rolled around,
As the years always do,
And she came to his ultimate
Destiny – stew.
And the small grain of sand
That had bothered her so
Was a beautiful pearl
All richly aglow.
Now the tale has a moral;
For isn’t it grand
What an oyster can do
With a morsel of sand?
What couldn’t we do
If we’d only begin
With some of the things
That get under our skin.
About Julianna Beavan
Julianna Beavan is one of the world’s most respected Business Coaches and Network Marketers. With a proven track record in helping people to take better control of their financial and lifestyle circumstances, via exciting options that exist in the health & wellness sector. Julianna is often commended for her inspiring coaching style – never neglecting the important human aspects of being warm, supportive and humble towards all those who approach her with a serious business appetite and the discipline to succeed.
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